Confidence or Arrogance: The Thin Line of Perception

The line between confidence and arrogance is subjective. Our upbringing, personal beliefs, relationships, and preferences shape how we perceive others' behaviour.

Chibuzor Obilom
September 21, 2024
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The Fine Line: How We Judge Confidence vs. Arrogance

I have always wondered why some people are said to be confident, and some others arrogant. Sometimes the same person is seen as arrogant to some people. On the other side of town, they are ‘confident’.

I believe this happens due to some interplay of factors that shape our perception.

Upbringing

Our upbringing plays a big role in how we interpret human behaviour. People raised in cultures and homes that value humility are more inclined to view assertive behaviour as arrogance. They perceive assertiveness differently. On the other hand, individuals from backgrounds that emphasise self-promotion see the same behaviour as healthy confidence.

Personal Beliefs

Our beliefs act as filters through which we view others. When we believe that people who are good at what they do have self-belief and pride, we see them as more self-assured. We do not see them as immodest. When we think that genuine talent is associated with some level of humility, we brand such conduct as some form of overconfidence.

Personal Relationships

Our attitudes toward an individual mainly affect our perceptions about them. It’s easier for us to accept the behaviour or decisions made by someone we love or like. We ascribe it to their healthy self-image. But, similar acts from people we hate would quickly be dismissed as prideful.

Support and Agreement

Supporting someone’s ideas or actions often makes us judge their belief as justified confidence. When we oppose their position, that same belief comes off as stubborn arrogance.

Personal Preferences

We are influenced by our personalities and likes. For example, most introverts see ‘extrovert behaviour’ as dominating. Extroverts will view it as a normal expression of self. Our perception of others’ behaviour is influenced by our comfort with assertiveness.

In summary, the line between confidence and arrogance is blurry. Various factors like personal judgments are used when coming up with these decisions.

We should always remember that we have biases. There are many determinant factors available at different levels.

There’s a big tendency to view people who are sure of themselves as overly proud. It is our personal experiences that shape how we view other people. As humans, it’s important to remember our biases. We should consider these biases when judging others based on what we think we know. Perhaps we need to be more aware of our actions when engaging with those around us. It is better to do this than calling one another names.